I’m up at 1:38am after going to bed. I can’t sleep. I’m a light sleeper and even the slightest noises can bother me and rouse me from my sleep. When I do end up awake in the early mornings I find my mind thinks about the weirdest topics…case-in-point, the reason I’m writing this post.
There is an post circulating around my Facebook community right now written by a Mommy Blogger (whose RSS feed I subscribe to) who has written on many topics that I have enjoyed reading and find refreshing, but this one post she wrote I just can’t connect to. I swear, I must be from another planet because I think I’m the only one. Every other mom of younger children has reposted her original post onto their Facebook page or commented on how much they love it! I mean, LOVE IT! Everyone is totally raving about how she hit-the-nail-on-the-head and totally got this one right. She did? I’m not in consensus on this one.
Her post is about how some older mothers will tell you to cherish EVERY moment with your young child because before you know it these days will be over, and you will have missed it before you realize it’s gone. The blogger states that this theory doesn’t work for her because she worries that she’s doing something wrong if she doesn’t find herself in a constant state of ecstasy and gratitude. HUH? This isn’t what cherish means…at least not from my point-of-view. Cherish means to have affection for; feel tenderness for…and some definitions state:
1 to protect and love (a person) She cherishes that child.
2 to keep (a hope, idea etc) in the mind She cherishes the hope that he will return.
This is what cherishing every moment means to me, and I’m glad to do it. Maybe it’s a morbid way of thinking to everyone else, but I do cherish every moment with my child, whether positive or negative memories because I don’t know how many I have. I protect him and love him to the best of my ability. Now, I’ve never lost a child, (except from miscarriage) so I can’t speak to how that must feel, but I can imagine that any mother that has would probably tell you that they do cherish EVERY SINGLE MOMENT, no matter the situation. If she could have her child back for just one more moment she probably would hop at the chance. This is what I try to remind myself when I look at or think about my child. This is how I approach life (don’t get me started on women that don’t tell you how old they are..this is a pet peeve of mine, but that’s for another day).
Maybe my viewpoint is different also because my child is different from the “Average Joe”. Maybe when your child has special needs you look at life completely different…i don’t know, maybe? I do know that I’m not sure when and how I’m going to get those “special moments”, so I take what he offers and I make them special, even when he’s having a meltdown or burning up with fever because there’s something to cherish there, something to love, protect and keep. I don’t think I need to be in a constant state of ecstasy to cherish this time. However, I do think I need to be in a constant state of gratitude
(1 Thessalonians 5:18 “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”), so this is what I try to do.
These are the kind of thoughts you get from me when insomnia has got me up.
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